Making Big Choices Regarding Funerals

Here's What To Expect When Choosing A State Cemetery For Your Veteran Spouse

by Andrea Rhodes

Your veteran spouse deserves the best when it comes to their final resting place. So choosing a state cemetery to bury them is important. Here's what to expect when choosing a state veteran cemetery for your loved one:

The Application Process 

Not just anyone can be buried in a state cemetery. These facilities are reserved for those who have served the United States military in one way or another in their lifetime. While every state cemetery has varying eligibility requirements, most require active duty service in order to qualify for a plot. Therefore, proof of service is one thing you'll have to provide when applying to get a plot for your veteran loved one.

And you'll probably have to prove that your spouse was not dishonorably discharged from the military for any reason. You and your children may also be eligible for plots next to your loved one too, so take the time to apply for everyone in the family if your spouse gets accepted to ensure that you can all lay to rest next to one another if that's important to you.

The Ceremony

When it's time to bury your spouse in the cemetery, you'll have many service options to choose from that are specifically designed to honor veterans of the United States military. Bagpipe services, a flag folding ceremony, and a eulogy read by a state official are just a few different kinds of services you may be able to take advantage of.

Ask for a complete list of service options, so you know exactly what's available, and you can work with your family to customize your spouse's burial ceremony and ensure that the experience is a meaningful one for everyone involved. The cemetery director can help you decide which services to invest in for your spouse based on things such as the type of service they provided to the military, the size of the ceremony, and the guest list.

The Environment

The environment of a state cemetery tends to be a little different than other cemeteries. For instance, you typically can't picnic near your loved one's plot or allow the kids to run around a little and get some energy out. Everyone who visits the cemetery is expected to be quiet, respectful, and orderly while there.

Make sure that you know all of the rules before taking your family to visit your spouse once they have been buried. You'll save yourself some stress and heartache by knowing what's expected of you and making sure that your kids do too.